A Mother's Day to remember*Shadow* ~ Waning Gibbous Moon in Capricorn*sidereal




Mother's Day conjures up all kinds of feelings for many of us, whether from a personal perspective or from our own relationships forged with our own mothers. Many of those said relationships that many daughters have forged with their mother's are upon superficial inspection, ones of love, joy, and immension pleasure. However, upon deep inspection we can also find that many relationships where daughters and mother relationships are wrought with pain, confusion, rejection and also abuse.  Keep in mind that I am not out to spoil this wonderful day of celebrating mothers, in fact without our mothers we just wouldn't be here, living, breathing, so this is to every mother whose kept herself healthy, emotionally and mentally, whose raised her children in a manner that they can respect, having been shown affection, love and given all the financial, emotional, and physical support each child needed to thrive, to those mothers I celebrate YOU!!




However, what about the mother's who couldn't for whatever reasons provide that kind of support and love to their children? Whether a mental illness impeded her progress or desire to provide more happiness, more love, more joy and support or whether it was rage, a deep seeded fear of life and all of its responsibilities that kept from being the mother you needed? What if she herself was abused?How do we find a spark of hope, forgiveness, or even peace on this day? Any day? Society doesn't like to talk about anything that doesn't represent a "feel good" energy. From movies, to Disney, television, to books we are besieged with images and media that say we are supposed to all have caring, kind, loving, giving, supportive, and responsible mothers. They are supposed to tend to our needs, provide us with unconditional love and endless counseling. They are to grow old and wise, assisting both son or daughter in raising their children as they grow into the years of the crone.

However, for much of the population in America, this "fantasy" that we are constantly exposed too is not our reality.  According to an article that ABC news released on May 11, 2010 exposing the very real problems of mother abuse stated that ~"An estimated 56 percent of all abusers -- physical, mental and sexual -- are women, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The most common form is psychological. According to Dr. Philip R. Muskin, a professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, "Neglect and emotional abuse are every bit as damaging as sexual abuse."  "Abuse can include name calling; threatening to kill the victim's family or pet; controlling access to finances; isolating the victim from family and friends; coercing the victim to perform degrading, humiliating or illegal acts; interfering with job, medical or educational opportunities; or making the victim feel powerless and ashamed. "This happens a lot." 
Numerous studies have shown that maternal behaviors like constant criticism, withholding affection or humiliation can take a toll on children, adversely affecting their academic achievement, social growth and self-worth."
My next focus is on the WHY does this happen a lot, according to the medical community. There must be a reason? Why is it that some mother's are unable to create a healthy bond with her children?    What would be some of the reasons a mother would abuse her child/ren or even not be able to perform the duties previously mentioned to the best of her ability? The answer is an obvious one, but not one that is often spoken about, not among family, the medical communities nor the media. It's depression and mental illness.  According to Mental Health America a link has been provided here,
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/conditions/depression-women

  • Approximately 12 million women in the United States experience clinical depression each year.[2]
  • About one in every eight women can expect to develop clinical depression during their lifetime.[2]
  • Depression occurs most frequently in women aged 25 to 44.[3]

Contributing Factors

  • Social factors may also lead to higher rates of clinical depression among women, including stress from work, family responsibilities, the roles and expectations of women and increased rates of sexual abuse and poverty.[4]

Gender Differences

  • Women experience depression at roughly twice the rate of men.[3]
  • Girls 14-18 years of age have consistently higher rates of depression than boys in this age group.[5]

    Could it be according to the contributing factors that women are taking on roles that are pulling us away from effective parenting?  Stress factors certainly do play a vital role in how anyone can focus, feel or behave. Parenting is a full time job within and of itself, children require a lot of attention and that takes a lot of energy. With the added responsibilities and let's face it the very real numbers of single mothers in America, the stress factor has just exponentially increased! This can very well be one of the leading causes of depression and mental illness factors associated with women's mental illness. 
    Many mothers don't feel they have adequate resources available to them or their children in the communities they live in to assist them in finding balance in supporting their parenting efforts.  Safe after school programs, supervised extracurricular activities that are cost effective, child mentoring programs to name but a few are some of resources needed that can decrease stress significantly for single mothers. 
    Another contributing factor are the societal expectations placed on women as mothers. Why is it we are inundated with images of perfection, colossal support systems, supreme givers and nurturers??? Where is the balance?  Women are HUMAN not super human. Women need support networks, places to go to unwind and relax, get reacquainted with their inner truth and release the stresses they face on a day to day basis. Instead of that happening, it would seem that the reality seems to be that a "woman's work is never done", with many families, whether they be 2 parent households or single mother (parent) households, women have to go out and get a job to support the household. Many have gone back to school to get an education, lock, stock and barrel with degrees, and this pushes many women into the arena of dreams, goals, careers that boost our self confidence and self worth! These are all positive things to obtain however, something is in our lives will have to take up the slack and that more than likely that very thing will be the household.
    Understand from a metaphysical perspective women are reservoirs, containers that HOLD, and SUSTAIN energy. When we focus or channel our energy in any given direction we BECOME the very energy we are holding. Therefore if the primary focus is on education, job(s,) spouse, paying bills, cleaning, grocery shopping, the meeting we had with our supervisor, even our children we become the container for THAT energy, depleting any thing of substance for ourselves. Often times depleting the "good stuff" for our children as well. As women we have to face the reality that Super woman might exist but she doesn't on our planet!  WE need SUPPORT!!! 

    When do we recognize that many mother's need serious intervention and medical assistance in terms of their own health?  Mental health is a serious issue when it comes to parenting because whether it is genetic, due to past abuse aka PTSD, everyone is affected, especially the children. Many of the contributing factors that were previously mentioned, if not appropriately addressed can create depression and mental illness that can ensue if left unchecked. Behavioral issues can be seeded, become monsters within the very precious children we created as they begin to act out on their own confusion, pain and anger. Now this blogger does not pretend to be a medical doctor, nor a licensed psychiatrist, however, I am very proactive in women's mental, physical, emotional and spiritual care! I've worked with children and families who are at risk for over 15 years and I have come to understand that if more community support, family support and understanding were provided to mother's whether at home, working or getting an education mental health issues would significantly DECREASE. So, on this mother's Day, let's focus on ways we can become apart of community out reach for mother's and their children (families) so that they can get the assistance they need to lead healthy and productive lives. 

    Astro focus...... on Mother's Day: Waning Gibbous: Releasing negative energy~Banishing depression~Getting rid of emotional obstacles~letting go of worry........the mood of the Moon will be in Capricorn*sidereal* its ruler is the planet SATURN. May 10, 2015


    A new look at an old friend.... Saturn. In astrology Saturn is often associated with the Father, as is the sun, both representing a force that is focused on integrity, discipline, limitations and restrictions.  However before the patriarch took over the divine feminine, Saturn was once Saturnalia, a feminine force not masculine.  Having shared that, for this particular blog I will be using Saturnalia as a feminine focus, switching back into the masculine when necessary. With Saturn ruling Capricorn influencing the mood of  this Mother's Day moon, I sensed it would be a good idea to share some highlights. 
    This moon phase is about releasing, getting rid of and banishing things such as negative emotions and depression. I am not promising a complete removal of these energies as the moon tends to work in phases not just within in. However, I am a true believer that if we are to initiate any kind of change in our lives, if we are capable, we need to only take the first step in the right direction. 
    Saturn which rules the sign of Capricorn is often seen as a (God) or Goddess that reaps a particular kind of harvest through hard work and utter devotion to a course of particular action. 
    Saturn has always been a touch planet to "get along with" as it is not one that brings cheer, abundance or happiness. What he/she does bring are hard lessons, restrictions, limitations and with that can come depression, repression, negative thinking and a domineering nature. In a chart Saturn, which can represent a domineering parent, an over bearing parent and a dysfunctional household. Now keep in mind this is in general, a look an individuals chart can show if this even applies. If you have Saturn connected to a natal planet such as the moon or sun, if it falls in the 4th or 10th houses, Saturn is definitely showing up as a parental force in your life. Let's recall that in Greek Mythology, Saturn aka Cronus ate his children to keep them from taking his throne. Epic failure but these children had to go through hell, pain, rejection, to come out on top by chaining him up in Tartarus (HELL). This story tells us that the "sins of the father-mother" can pass onto the children. This adds a bit more Saturn energy to the story as humiliation and guilt are often associated with this planet. 
    Keep in mind that Saturn is not JUST these things listed. There are some redeeming qualities this planet holds. Integrity, discipline, controlled focus and boundaries are all qualities that if one moves through this energy can cultivate.  In regard to mental illness, emotional health and abuse of from  mother's, these are qualities that all of their children will possess if they only endure and heal. It's certainly not an easy journey to take but one that is well worth the effort. 

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