The importance of compaitability in love relationships: Women Reclaim the TEMPLE
Here we are at the beginning of a new relationship! This one by far outshines the ones you've had in the past and you sense that this one holds promises to experiences you've never had before! Your heart skips beats, your palms start to get sweaty, your mouth gets dry and you can't seem to get them off of your mind. Yep! Those are the physical reactions we have to love. "Endorphin pops" and yes they get deeper, and more frequent each time you are in the presence of the individual that you are chemically attracted too. Now keep in mind, this chemical reaction does not have to just happen in person, it can happen when your not together, that is the most powerful expression, just hearing their voice, a chuckle, an inflection can create these chemicals to go haywire! Love is a complicated thing.
At this stage love is testy at best! You experience all of these fluctuating emotions, doubt, fears and extreme sexual appetites, swooning desire to be connected by any means necessary! Is all of this normal? Yes it is and in my opinion it should be celebrated, after all humans need contact, affection, love and tenderness to thrive. However, drum roll please!
One of the most challenging aspects of this relating is finding out whether or not you are compatible for a love relationship! Yep. That means taking your time to allow the energy of love to flow through you, instead of crashing down on you and blurring your vision. Sure, love feels good and it has it's moments of intense longing, that is the sweet part, in the midst of all of that is the reality of the pairing, it's crucial that we all pay more attention to the relating patterns of a partner before taking the plunge into the depths of passion. Yes, ladies I know... lust is a powerful thing. It beckons like a full moon in a dark forest where monsters are behind every tree, whose the monster? Loneliness of course, sexual arousal steeping in desire that has not been quenched, the need for affection, validation, connection.. need I go on?
It looks like taking love and attraction in stages of development, getting to know someone, how they think, react to life, finding out what's important to them, seeking a deeper connection other than just with the body, truly finding out how they communicate, what are their dreams, goals, and how do you fit into their picture of life. Of course this is a two way street, your partner should be thinking the same way and seek to be in your space, taking your time figuring it all out.
Of course there are exceptions to every "rule". And I by no means consider myself an expert, I am only offering my wisdom. Some attractions with others hit so fast and so hard that trying to slam on breaks is futile! Don't beat yourself up! When both engines have cooled a bit, step back and take a look at what's transpired and see if you can figure out where you want to go. To do this takes honesty and an understanding about chemical responses in both men and women. Women when having sexual relations tend to BOND quicker than men. Therefore we seek relationships faster, while men can stay in the friendship or instant attraction mode longer. This can cause for some confusion when trying to get closer and it seems as though he's just not interested. Reassess what your needs are and don't be afraid to ask him what are his, chances are you'll come to some kind of an understanding sooner than later.
One of the biggest concerns I have found in women is that we can move too fast towards SEXUAL UNION!!!
We have LOVE, SEX, FRIENDSHIP. Within the 3 circles you'll find an over lap of love, sex, and friendship.
1. We always want to get somewhere in the middle. Marriage or long term relationships come from this union. Simply because there is a balance. The two took time to get to know one another, sex followed and then LOVE blossomed on a deeper level. Where we have love and sex, and friendship over lapping. Of course nothing is "perfect" but it's a good place to be in.
2. When we have friendship and sex, we have the term "friends with benefits" this is more than likely a "sex buddy". Sex more than likely happened first, a friendship occurred afterward but there wasn't enough information or knowledge about one another yet to build on a love relationship. More than likely "true" love will be difficult to materialize.
2. The "it's complicated" portion of the circles where love and friendship meet is due to the sex getting in the way. So it's a reversed expression of the sex, and friendship portion. Again, we want somewhere in the middle.
Romantic compatibility is never an easy thing to determine. Nothing ever goes as smoothly as we plan it, but if you are conscious in what you need and how you desire to relate, then you are beginning the process of honoring your body and your heart. The act of love is what sustains life, it brings us hope, joy and allows us to build a foundation so strong that nothing can break it down. Creating friendships, liking the person and seeing if you have similar goals, morals, likes/dislikes, etc are the key to this kind of lasting relationship. That means when the endorphin pop subsides, and the sheets, kitchen sink, shower, car, etc cool off, you've got someone you LIKE and are willing to work with than someone you don't even think you really care to know. Love with all of your heart and soul and know you are worthy of experiencing each and every moment to the fullest.
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Love and much radiant light!