Foreplay tips for men according to yahoo vices. Are they fact or fiction?

Hearing about foreplay and knowing what it IS can be daunting. Truly it's not that difficult to understand but an entirely different thing when we want the "how too" explanation. There are tons of books available that teach you about foreplay that I've listed in link format at the bottom of this blog. I included a variety for you so that you can choose the best one for you!  Keep in mind there are others but you'll have to do the research to see what fits for you. All of the books I've listed I own 4 out of the 6 for my clients! Give them a try and see how they suit your needs.

This article was written from Yahoo Vices Online Magazine. I thought it interesting information as I an a Sensuality/Sex Coach and found some of the information misleading. I caution you to always check out the information that you receive! If you like you can shoot me an email; or you can comment on the blog and I will respond! I would be happy to answer your questions.

The information on this blog is pretty clear. However there is a few pieces of information that are a bit misleading. Tell me what YOU think!  

My comments will be in the color Purple and with them I will give some suggestions!
Always remember to practice SAFER SEX!!!


 Foreplay Tip #1 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Don't immediately go for the hot spots.
Going straight for a woman's breasts, neck, or other highly erogenous zones is not a good way to kick off foreplay. Gently rubbing her arms, stomach, legs, back, and hair is a much better way to get her warmed up to the idea of having sex. Going straight for a woman's breasts just screams desperation and selfishness.
 I agree on point number one! It's about taking it slow and building up to the idea of the act of sex, not going straight for the prize when you start off. *not unless you're engaging in a quickie* 
Foreplay Tip #2 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Take your time before undressing her.
Anticipation is one of your best friends when it comes to foreplay. If she is wondering every time that your hands wander to the top of her pants or the bottom of her shirt if this will be the time you will start to undress her, then she is sure to be lying on pins and needles, which will heighten her senses, making all subsequent touches that much more sensual.
Tip #2 is rather vague: What we want to say is linger in spaces and places all over her body, slowly taking the time to undress her kiss by kiss, moment by moment, anticipation IS very sexy! 
Foreplay Tip #3 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Once you do undress her, remember to make it an experience.
Instead of simply taking her shirt off, pull it up over her eyes and kiss her, not being able to see where you are going next will make her super sensitive to your touch, take advantage of that. Take each layer, shirt, undershirt, bra, pants, underwear, even socks, off one at a time. Think of each layer of clothing as another opportunity to make her squirm.
Tip # 3 is basically what we said in #2! Okay so there are 9 tips not 10. :)-

Foreplay Tip #4 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Light and gentle wins out over rough and fast.
While you are kissing all over, and you should take the time to kiss all over, make sure that you are doing it in a light and gentle way. Going to fast or too hard isn't a good idea when her body is in a heightened sense of arousal, it might cause her to feel like she is being tickled, which will lead to laughing instead of moaning.
Tip #4 is a good one, remember it depends on THE WOMAN. Some women actually like rough touch, think of the book, yes I have to name it! "50 shades of Grey", although in my opinion it's pseudo S & M it is a tool for heightened sensuality. But I digress, HOW ABOUT YOU ASK her what she likes or ask her whether or not she would mind a variation of touch so that you can both discover what her likes and dislikes are. This keeps communication open and if you're Sapiosexual  that might be an even bigger turn on!

Foreplay Tip #5 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Compliment and talk dirty in equal proportions.
Being complimented too much starts to get annoying, talking dirty too much may make her feel dirty, mixing compliments and dirty talk will make her feel sexy. When you are kissing her neck, whisper dirty things in her ear, when you are kissing her stomach and arms, tell her how sexy you think she is.
Tip #5 is again about the individual woman. Many women get super turned on by "dirty talk", that is all they want to hear because being bad feels oh so good! However, in equal measure there are women who detest it and want only "clean talk" or some many  not like talk at all! So, the bottom line is he should always ASK or get a feel by LISTENING to what  his woman is actually saying to him OUT of the bedroom! That's right guys, you gotta listen when she opens her mouth. 

Foreplay Tip #6 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Don't spend too much time in one spot, keep it moving.
If you have found a great spot that the woman enjoys a lot, that is great, just break up the attention you give to that spot by moving back and forth between that spot to others. Spending too much time on one spot on her body may start to make her bored.
Tip #6 is not so accurate either. Again it depends on the woman. If a woman has a body that is wired for intensity or longevity in fore play or even in sex. It may be imperative that he stays and lingers on specific spots of pleasure, that way it moves her closer to orgasm and pleasure. If a woman's body doesn't need that kind of intense focus and she likes variety this is good advice. 
Foreplay Tip #7 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Take control.
If you are performing foreplay on her, then you need to take control. You don't have to be forceful, but you can tell her what positions you want her in, whether you want her eyes open or closed, whether she should watch you or not, etc.

Tip#7  Again this depends on the woman, ask, some women like to take control too!
Foreplay Tip #8 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Go downtown.
If you really want her begging to have sex, then go downtown. Be gentle, take your time, and pay attention to her body language while you are down there. Don't be afraid to get your whole body involved while you are down there, use your shoulders to hold her legs, your hands to rub her thighs, your nose, fingers, etc.

Foreplay Tip #9 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: Make sure that she is well lubricated before you finish up your foreplay and move on to sex.
Trying to have sex without proper lubrication can be quite painful for a woman, especially if you are a rather well-endowed man. Don't stop with the foreplay until she is physically ready to have sex. If she is telling you she wants to have sex now but she isn't lubricated enough then bring in the KY or some other store bought lubricant.
Tip #9 SO IMPORTANT! Make sure she's wet, wet, wet! That way, she's ready, ready, ready!!! 

Foreplay Tip #10 How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: If she starts to lose the mood while you are in the middle of sex, return to foreplay for a minute or two to get her back in the mood.
Just because you have started having sex doesn't mean that you can't return to foreplay when she starts to lose the mood. If she begins to lose lubrication or seems like she is getting frustrated, then return to foreplay for a minute so that she can relax again.
 Tip#10 is a very good one! Sometimes depending on age, health, and stress levels, lubrication can change during sexual intercourse. Don't take it personally, just go back to foreplay is an amazing technique to use, and letting her know it's okay and you're right in there with her! 

Have some amazing sex!

Here are some books that I recommend on foreplay techniques: 



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